We started counseling a couple of weeks ago. I am not sure how I feel about it at all. I think that it may be a waste of time. One of the only reasons that I decided to go through this process is to make sure that I have exhausted every avenue possible to reconcile. I like to say that I have done all that I could do. Honestly, I feel that it really is up to him to resolve all of the issues that he has with being a step father and a husband. The more I sit in counseling, I feel that it is more about being a step father than anything else. If that is the case then I want him to leave. My children and I are a package deal. I have raised them to be respectful young men. They may be a bit spoiled but overall awesome kids. I am proud to be their mother and no one can change that. If my husband does not feel that he fits into that picture then I am sorry. Children don’t ask to be here and they are my responsibility. Don’t mistake my firmness on this subject as I won’t listen. I understand that I can not teach my boys to be something that I have never been, a man. I can lead and direct them as best as I can. Whenever my husband made a suggestion regarding the boys, I would take his advice into consideration. I am not one of those parents that sees my children through rose color glasses. I guess I said all of this to say my children should not be a factor in this situation. He knew that I had kids before we got married and should have considered what responsibility that would include. Either way I will press forward.